I ask no favors for my sex. I surrender not our claim to equality. All I ask of our brethren is, that they will take their feet from off our necks, and permit us to stand upright on that ground which God designed us to occupy.
—- Sarah Grimké (writer, abolitionist, judge, suffragist) (via bryarly)
There’s so much more to life than finding someone who will want you, or being sad over someone who doesn’t. There’s a lot of wonderful time to be spent discovering yourself without hoping someone will fall in love with you along the way, and it doesn’t need to be painful or empty. You need to fill yourself up with love. Not anyone else. Become a whole being on your own. Go on adventures, fall asleep in the woods with friends, wander around the city at night, sit in a coffee shop on your own, write on bathroom stalls, leave notes in library books, dress up for yourself, give to others, smile a lot. Do all things with love, but don’t romanticize life like you can’t survive without it. Live for yourself and be happy on your own. It isn’t any less beautiful, I promise.
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Anonymous asked: I agree with everything you said about porn but there is home made porn and soft porn (which is porn but there is no penetration or real sexual activities) which is fine and healthy. Besides there is jerk off and masturbation which is also fine, and most of them are home made.
no? the commodification of sex is not healthy. porn is general is not healthy, or even natural.
there is absolutely no way of telling if the “homemade” porn was given consent to being uploaded. it may not even be amateur, because a lot of pro porn studios spend money to make it look “homemade”. above all, you’re still giving ad revenue to the porn industry when you’re looking at any category of video on a porn site.
ethical consumption is a myth. the porn sites don’t care why or how you’re watching their products, they’re just happy to be making money. so stop making excuses for yourself. porn isn’t okay.
Seriously, capitalism will work hard to sell you myths that you’ll believe. They tell you there product is green because the plastic bottle is thinner, but that’s just because it’s less material they have to use and more money in their pocket— plus people love to feel green even when they’re buying fucking water bottles, so corporations bank on the new social attitudes. But bottled water remains overpriced and a violent assault to the landscapes and communities corporations steal water from.
This is how porn works, too. They’ll convince you of something “good,” like maybe this porn was produced by women (supposedly) and everyone participating is consenting and happy. How the hell can you confirm this *ever*? (Especially when literally *most* porn workers confirm that rape and assault are just part of life for them.) And if I consent to an act today but change my mind next week, I have no power to remove that content from any porn outlet or media source. I have lost power of consent, choice, and control of my sexuality (or the commodification of my sexuality). This is a huge concern for me and there is zero way to rectify this problem of consent in porn. And there go porn sites making bank off of new cultural attitudes (porn for ladies! feminist porn! blah blah blah) the same as they always have on everything else.
Seriously, don’t fool yourself into thinking any capitalist industry is any good. Capitalism bastardizes everything and sells it to you in any package they can get you to buy.