The Volatile Soul

One day I will find the right words,
and they will be perfect.

The sexual revolution prepared men for a world where women say yes to sex, but it did not prepare them for women’s right to say no.

Laura Gene McNally (via yoursocialconstructsareshowing)

The sexual revolution prepared men for a world where women say yes to sex, but it did not prepare them for women’s right to say no.

Laura Gene McNally (via yoursocialconstructsareshowing)

coeur-de-porcelaine:

frankieztein:

cunicular:

destroyedforcomfort:

blackfootbeauty:

oliasis:

notyour-sidekick:

kleenexwoman:

did-you-kno:

Source

I have a few copies of “Playboy” from the 1970s stashed away somewhere. One of them has a letter where a guy writes in saying, “I met this really gorgeous, sweet woman, and we were planning to get married, but she sat me down yesterday and told me that she had a sex change before she met me. Mr. Hefner, should I marry someone who used to be a man?” and the response was, “So she had a sex change, big whoop. Would you be asking this question if she’d made any other change in her life before she met you? You love the woman she is now, and that’s all that should matter. If you want kids you can adopt or something.”

I feel so conflicted right now



That awkward moment when Hugh Hefner is more trans-positive than most feminists of the same era. 

omg

Yes, because a man who said the words “The notion that Playboy turns women into sex objects is ridiculous. Women are sex objects.” and makes millions of dollars off the exploitation and commodification of women, who has three girlfriends at a time and definitely sees those women as nothing more but decorations and objects to service him, should ~totally~ be praised more than actual fucking women who ARE feminists and fight fucking hard. I’m not surprised Hugh Hefner supports trans women, its the same old male supremacist bullshit - caring more about males than females - and you libfems fucking uphold him as a ~feminist icon~ for being kind to males (tans women) and degrading the hell out of females, all the while shitting on actual women feminists. Wow, how fucking revolutionary (spoiler: its not, its the same old fucking patriarchal bullshit).


a comic from playboy magazine, about two men hwo are going to rape a woman.
This from Pornland by Gail Dines, about Playboy, page 11:
TRIGGER WARNING: GRAPHIC DESCRIPTION OF RAPE:
"… one such battle occured over a story by Calder Willingham that appeared in the JUly 1962 issue. Called "Bus story", it focuses on the rape of a seventeen year old girl by an older man. However, as in much of pornography, the story is written in a way that sexualizes the brutality: "there are times to be tender and times to be just a little rough. This was a time to be just a little rough. Left forearm heavily across her breasts and left hand gripping her shoulder so hard she winced, Harrys used his knees like a wedge, grey eyes hypnotic above her. ‘Open your legs’, he said in a cold, hard and vicious tone. Lips apart and eyes empty with shock, the girl did as she was told. A moment later, hands limp on his shoilders, a gasp came from her. Then another gasp".. "
Pornland by Gail Dines, page 22:
"In ‘Bunny Tales’, Izabella St. James, an ex-girlfriend of Hefner’s, writes about waht really went on at the mansion; how Hefner would have uunprotected sex with a number of women, one after the other, but regardless of how women he penetrated, he could orgasm only by masturbating to pornography. St. James discloses that many of the young women didn’t want to have sex with Hefner but "it was part of the unspoken rules. It was almost as if we had to do it in return for all the things we had".."
This does not sound like man who gives a shit about women, it sounds like a man who gives a shit about men’s ability to rape and dehumanize women.
No matter how many “anti-rape” guides or whatever, playboy prints, the fact is that as pornography, is it rape culture and anti-female propaganda.

It’s okay if a man is a rape apologist and sexually exploits women, he made a sassy tweet! He’s now a better feminist than women ! tee hee

coeur-de-porcelaine:

frankieztein:

cunicular:

destroyedforcomfort:

blackfootbeauty:

oliasis:

notyour-sidekick:

kleenexwoman:

did-you-kno:

Source

I have a few copies of “Playboy” from the 1970s stashed away somewhere. One of them has a letter where a guy writes in saying, “I met this really gorgeous, sweet woman, and we were planning to get married, but she sat me down yesterday and told me that she had a sex change before she met me. Mr. Hefner, should I marry someone who used to be a man?” and the response was, “So she had a sex change, big whoop. Would you be asking this question if she’d made any other change in her life before she met you? You love the woman she is now, and that’s all that should matter. If you want kids you can adopt or something.”

I feel so conflicted right now

That awkward moment when Hugh Hefner is more trans-positive than most feminists of the same era. 

omg

Yes, because a man who said the words “The notion that Playboy turns women into sex objects is ridiculous. Women are sex objects.” and makes millions of dollars off the exploitation and commodification of women, who has three girlfriends at a time and definitely sees those women as nothing more but decorations and objects to service him, should ~totally~ be praised more than actual fucking women who ARE feminists and fight fucking hard. I’m not surprised Hugh Hefner supports trans women, its the same old male supremacist bullshit - caring more about males than females - and you libfems fucking uphold him as a ~feminist icon~ for being kind to males (tans women) and degrading the hell out of females, all the while shitting on actual women feminists. Wow, how fucking revolutionary (spoiler: its not, its the same old fucking patriarchal bullshit).

a comic from playboy magazine, about two men hwo are going to rape a woman.

This from Pornland by Gail Dines, about Playboy, page 11:

TRIGGER WARNING: GRAPHIC DESCRIPTION OF RAPE:

"… one such battle occured over a story by Calder Willingham that appeared in the JUly 1962 issue. Called "Bus story", it focuses on the rape of a seventeen year old girl by an older man. However, as in much of pornography, the story is written in a way that sexualizes the brutality: "there are times to be tender and times to be just a little rough. This was a time to be just a little rough. Left forearm heavily across her breasts and left hand gripping her shoulder so hard she winced, Harrys used his knees like a wedge, grey eyes hypnotic above her. ‘Open your legs’, he said in a cold, hard and vicious tone. Lips apart and eyes empty with shock, the girl did as she was told. A moment later, hands limp on his shoilders, a gasp came from her. Then another gasp".. "

Pornland by Gail Dines, page 22:

"In ‘Bunny Tales’, Izabella St. James, an ex-girlfriend of Hefner’s, writes about waht really went on at the mansion; how Hefner would have uunprotected sex with a number of women, one after the other, but regardless of how women he penetrated, he could orgasm only by masturbating to pornography. St. James discloses that many of the young women didn’t want to have sex with Hefner but "it was part of the unspoken rules. It was almost as if we had to do it in return for all the things we had".."

This does not sound like man who gives a shit about women, it sounds like a man who gives a shit about men’s ability to rape and dehumanize women.

No matter how many “anti-rape” guides or whatever, playboy prints, the fact is that as pornography, is it rape culture and anti-female propaganda.

It’s okay if a man is a rape apologist and sexually exploits women, he made a sassy tweet! He’s now a better feminist than women ! tee hee

(via yoursocialconstructsareshowing)

I quickly realized that friendships without tomorrows, and the little anguishes of parting, were part of the pleasures of travelling. I resolutely avoided bores, saw only those who amused me. We spent afternoons taking long walks, nights drinking and talking, and then we would leave each other, never to meet again, and there were no regrets. How simple life was! No regrets, no obligations, my acts and gestures counted for nothing, no one asked my advice, and I knew no other rule but my whims.

Simone de Beauvoir, from The Mandarins (via violentwavesofemotion)

My prayer for my daughter

thegirlwiththepigtattoo:

Fuck pathetic fallacy
(unless you want to count the city’s raining spree
That has rendered the subway outside my office into a dark soul-less gutter)
But I have been praying for my child too
A child that will only come into existence after I am 42 
Or maybe I will go to a third world country…
humansofnewyork:

"I have a doctorate in Buddhist philosophy. Now I want to learn as many languages as possible so I can teach as many people as possible.""What do you think is the most important thing that people can learn from Buddhism?""Compassion. Everyone suffers and everyone needs happiness."
(Dharamshala, India)

humansofnewyork:

"I have a doctorate in Buddhist philosophy. Now I want to learn as many languages as possible so I can teach as many people as possible."
"What do you think is the most important thing that people can learn from Buddhism?"
"Compassion. Everyone suffers and everyone needs happiness."

(Dharamshala, India)

apoorvadutt:

cornersofmind:

Teen Movies: 8tracks Collection

I want John Cusack holding a boombox outside my window. I wanna ride off on a lawnmower with Patrick Dempsey. I want Jake from Sixteen Candles waiting outside the church for me. I want Judd Nelson thrusting his fist into the air because he knows he got me. Just once I want my life to be like an 80’s movie, preferably one with a really awesome musical number for no apparent reason.

80s Boombox: 01. The Breakfast Club - Don’t You Forget About Me; Simple Minds | 02. Say AnythingIn Your Eyes; Peter Gabriel 03. Dirty Dancing - Eyes; Eric Carmen | 04. Pretty In Pink - If You Leave; Orchestral Manoeuvres In The Dark | 05. Some Kind Of Wonderful She Loves Me; Stephen Duffy | 06.  Valley GirlI Melt With You Modern English | 07. Sixteen Candles - True; Spandau Ballet | 08. Pretty In Pink - Try A Little Tenderness; Otis Redding | 09. Dirty Dancing The Time Of My Life; Bill Medley & Jennifer Warnes | 10. Top Gun Take My Breath Away; Berlin | 11. Sixteen Candles If You Were Here; Thompson Twins | 12. Mannequin - Nothing’s Gonna Stop Us Now; Starship | 13. Some Kind Of WonderfulAbuse (Dr. Mabuse Remix); Propaganda | 14. Back To The FuturePower of Love; Huey Lewis and the News | 15. Can’t Buy Me LoveAll Night; Randy Hall | 16. The Breakfast ClubWe Are Not Alone; Karla DeVito | 17. St. Elmo’s Street - Man In Motion; John Parr | 18. Footloose - Footloose; Kenny Loggins | 19. Risky Business - Old Time Rock N Roll; Bob Seger | 20. Ferris Bueller’s Day OffTwist And Shout; The Beatles | 21. Back To The Future - Johnny B. Goode; Chuck Berry | 22. The Blues Brothers Shake A Tail Feather; The Blues Brothers feat. Ray Charles | 23. Flashdance - What A Feeling; Irene Cara | 24.  Can’t Buy Me Love - Can’t Buy Me Love; The Beatles | 25. Happy TogetherHappy Together; The Turtles | 26. Dream A Little DreamDream A Little Dream Me; Mel Tormé and Mickey Thomas | 27. Real GeniusEverybody Wants To Rule The World; Tears For Fears | 28. HeathersTeenage Suicide (Don’t Do It); Big Fun 29. Weird Science - Weird Science; Oingo Boingo | 30. Ferris Bueller’s Day Off - Oh Yeah; Yello. [LISTEN] 

90s Discman: 01. Cruel Intentions - Bittersweet Symphony; The Verve | 02. Romeo + Juliet - Lovefool; The Cardigans. | 03. ArmagedonI Don’t Want To Miss A Thing Aerosmith | 04. Freaks and GeeksBad Reputation; Joan Jett and the Blackhearts | 05. She’s All ThatRockafeller; Skank Fatboy Slim | 06. CluelessKids In America; The Muffs | 07. Can’t Hardly WaitI Can’t Get Enough Of You, Baby; Smash Mouth | 08. 10 Things I Hate About YouI Want You To Want Me; Letters To Cleo |09. She’s All ThatKiss Me; Sixpence None The Richer | 10. Cruel IntentionsColorblind; Counting Crows | 11. Romeo + Juliet - Talk Show Host; Radiohead | 12. Dawson’s Creek - I Don’t Want To Wait; Paula Cole | 13. I Know What You Did Last SummerClumsy; Our Lady Peace | 14. My So-Called Life - At Night; Buffalo Tom | 15. Buffy The Vampire Slayer - Buffy Theme; Nerf Herder | 16. JawbreakerYoo Hoo; Imperial Teen | 17. Don’t Tell Mom the Babysitter’s Dead - Draggin’ The Line; Beat Goes Bang | 18. American PieMutt; Blink 182 | 19. Empire RecordsSugarhigh; Coyote Shivers | 20. Drive Me Crazy -  Keep On Loving You; The Donnas | 21. CluelessAlright; Supergrass | 22. Hayley Wagner, StarLook At Me; Geri Halliwell | 23. Teaching Mrs TingleSorry; Stretch Princess | 24. Wish Upon A StarHeaven; Moonpools and Caterpillars | 25.10 Things I Hate About You - Can’t Take My Eyes Off You; Heath Ledger | 26. Buffy The Vampire SlayerLittle Heaven; Toad The Wet Sprocket | 27. Empire Records - Til I Hear It From You; Gin Blossoms | 28. ElectionThis Road I’m Traveling; Mojave 3 | 29. That Thing You Do That Thing You Do; The Wonders | 30. TitanicMy Heart Will Go On; Celine Dion | 31. Drive Me Crazy(You Drive Me) Crazy; Britney Spears. [LISTEN]

00s MP3 Player: 01. A Walk To Remember - Someday We’ll Know; Mandy Moore and Jon Foreman | 02. A Cinderella Story - I’ll Be; Edwin McCain | 03. Down To You - Let’s Stay Together; Seal | 04. Ice Princess - No One; Aly & AJ | 05. Juno - Anyone Else But You; The Moldy Peaches | 06. (500) Days Of Summer - She’s Got You High; Mumm Ra | 07. The O.C. - California; Phantom Planet | 08. Veronica Mars - We Used To Be Friends; The Dandy Warhols | 09. Mean Girls - God Is A DJ; P!nk | 10. Legally Blonde - Perfect Day; Hoku | 11. Bring It On - Hey Mickey; B*Witched | 12. The Princess Diaries - Miracles Happen; Myra | 13. Just My Luck - Just My Luck; McFly | 14. She’s The Man - 4Ever; The Veronicas | 15. Freaky Friday - What I Like About You; Lillix | 16. The Perfect Man - I Will Learn To Love Again; Kaci Brown | 17. Wild Child - Let Me Think About It; Ida Corr vs. Fedde Le Grand | 18. Boys and Girls - Can’t Stop The Rock; Apollo 440 | 19. Freaky Friday - Happy Together; Simple Plan | 20. Josie And The Pussycats - Three Small Words; Rachael Leigh Cook, Tara Reid and Rosario Dawson | 21. Save The Last Dance - All Or Nothing; Athena Cage | 22. Whatever It Takes - Charm Attack; Leona Naess | 23. High School MusicalBreaking Free; Zac Efron and Vanessa Hudgens | 24. Confessions of a Teenage Drama Queen - That Girl; Lindsay Lohan | 25. Lizzie McGuire - What Dreams Are Made Of; Hilary Duff | 26. Raise Your Voice - Someone’s Watching Over Me; Hilary Duff | 27. What A Girl Wants - Long Time Coming; Oliver James | 28. A Walk To Remember - Only Hope; Mandy Moore | 29. Get Over It - Dream Of Me; Kirsten Dunst | 30. The Notebook - I’ll Be Seeing You; Billie Holiday | 31. The Prince and Me - I Hope That I Don’t Fall In Love With You; Marc Cohn | 32. The Sisterhood Of The Traveling Pants - These Days; Chantal Kreviazuk. [LISTEN]

10s Smartphone: 01. Pitch Perfect Cups (When I’m Gone) Anna Kendrick | 02. Easy A Change Of Seasons Sweet Thing | 03. The Fault In Our Stars Boom Clap; Charli XCX | 04. Veronica Mars - Stick Up; Max | 05. Twilight - Black Hole; Muse | 06. Divergent - Beating Heart; Ellie Goulding | 07. Vampire Academy - Bela Lugosi’s; Dead Chvrches | 08. G.B.F. - Body Work; Morgan Page feat. Tegan & Sara | 09. The First Time - Wait For Me; Motopony | 10. Veronica Mars - Prosthetic Love; Typhoon | 11. Catching Fire - Silhouettes; Of Monsters And Men | 12. The Spectacular Now - Song For Zula; Phosphorescent | 13. Breaking Dawn - Turning Page; Sleeping At Last | 14. The Fault In Our Stars - All Of The Stars; Ed Sheeran | 15. The Hunger Games - Safe & Sound; Taylor Swift and The Civil Wars | 16. Beautiful Creatures - Never Too Late; Thenewno2 | 17. The To Do List - Fade Into You; Mazzy Star | 18. City of Bones - When The Darkness Comes; Colbie Caillat | 19. Vampire Academy - Spiritual; Katy Perry | 20. Divergent - I Need You; M83 | 21. The Bling Ring - All Of The Lights; Kanye West feat. Rihanna, Kid Cudi | 22. Pitch Perfect - Price Tag / Don’t You Forget About Me / Give Me Everything; The Barden Bellas | 23. Dirty Girl - Your Love; The Outfield | 24. The Perks Of Being A Wallflower - Heroes; David Bowie | 25. Easy A - Knock On Wood; Emma Stone | 26. It’s Kind Of A Funny Story - Where Is My Mind; Maxence Cyrin. [LISTEN]

It’s all about the talking, you know?

We’re born alone, we live alone, we die alone. Only through our love and friendship can we create the illusion for the moment that we’re not alone.

—Orson Welles (via xinfinitebeings)

(via ah-y0m)